Expectations

I have not met a single person this year who did not struggle in some way coming to college. I think all of us expected to come to college and suddenly life would be completely different. Our insecurities would vanish, we would make the best friends of our lives in the first five minutes, and every single day from the very first night we were here, we would be partying all the time. At least, you know, those were my expectations.
Life doesn't work out that way. Life will always still be just life. College is awesome, and I officially love it, but I never in high school planned on giving myself time to adjust. I was supposed to come to college, be awesome, popular, spiritual, cool, dating, you know all that good stuff. But life wasn't made to be easy.
I've been thinking about it a lot, and honestly I think the problem I had was I thought I was the outsider. Heck I moved here from the other side of the country, and people weren't bending over backwards to help me. What is this? I was so dumb. Honestly if I had spent those first months trying to help other people with this difficult adjustment in their life, I would have probably enjoyed my first couple months here so much more. I think the thing we all need to remember is that everyone is struggling in someway, and the best way to get over your own struggles is to help someone else with theirs, so that's my plan.
I hope you got some sort of insight out of this if you're in a place where you still aren't happy with college prospects. When life stops being about you searching for personal happiness and starts being about helping others find happiness, you become happy. It's an intriguing irony to me, but I guess we came here for the purpose of helping one another, so just keep that in mind. I'll try my hardest to do the same.